other things that have helped over the years.

I'm looking for homeostasis most of all. General wellbeing. I stuff up. I eat the wrong foods, i say the wrong thing, i do the wrong thing. But i'm trying to get to better health. These are some things which helped my health.

Meditating before bed. This one my therapist showed me and it helped kill my insomnia. For 15 minutes (start with 5), sit and look at something interesting. And allow thoughts that comment on it, like oooh its blue and its edged there. And anything else your mind comes up with just say ok and refocus on the object.
It takes a long time to be able to do this well, but with every practice you're retraining the mind to let go and get into the now. Allow yourself to notice pain in the same way as thoughts. Then let them go and move on.

L-Glutamine + Probiotics. While i'm not convinced CFS is a -virus-, quite often it started with one. These are good supplements, l-glutamine to help rebuild the gut wall and probiotics to help repopulate after antibiotics/too many happy meals at mcdonalds. There is research out there, but i read the research then go on what works for me. And forget the research.

Exercising without using adrenaline or strength. I was able to teach mixed martial arts for a while and this helped so much. Instead of forcing things with boxing/wrestling, i would get the right technique and lean into it or punch with as relaxed an arm as i could. And steered away from overly cardiovascular exercise. This helped me use my body while not crashing directly afterwards. Eating protein/no sugar/protein powder that day helped too.

Sleep. Forget what people say, how many hours a night you need sleep-wise. My body loves sleep, if i wake up early, i feel crap. I luckily have a shift job i can casually work so if i have an early day, i can have the next day off. If you need 12 hours, get it. Relax before sleep with a book and noticing things in your body, and let go of all the crap you are trying to process through the day.

Echinacea - Good for the immune system. This helped me breathe clearly. And is great for colds, or just general health. Good to cycle it. Zinc is a good one too, not too much for women though.

Helping others - I felt like i had to help others. My mother had bipolar and she always seemed sad and stressed. Because i wanted support from others, i started giving it, trying to fix her. I couldn't. Usually childhood creates in-built beliefs that just aren't helpful. If I feel like i'm going to die with 10 minutes of talking, it is not helpful for me to try and help that person at that time. The more focused on myself, the more i can help others. I have spent a long time being pissed off with my family and myself, its good to go through.

Feelings - Its important to look at this one, especially with CFS. Am I allowed to be angry, scared, afraid, vulnerable around other people? The answer for me was no unless they were good friends. Again childhood hurts. Its easy to take these things and create CFS as a psychological illness. Yet all illnesses are and aren't. It is the big picture; nutrition, lifestyle, psychology, support network, mental/emotional etc.